Beyond the boundaries of right-doing and wrong-doing, there
is a field. I’ll meet you there – Rumi.
This field is lush green and expansive. It never ends. It
goes on and on for as long as you want it to go. The day you want to reach its
boundaries, you’ll find them. Your boundaries are defined by you. Your freedom
is defined by you. We forget that we always have a choice.
We are defined by our choices. Our relationships are defined
by our choices. We can make them beautiful or we can dehydrate them with a rule
book of civilities and normalcy. Possibilities are endless and no two people on
this planet can have the same life. No two couples on this planet can share the
same lives. Maybe, our choices can be similar. But our reactions, our
responses, our emotions, they are difficult to replicate.
Why do we listen to songs about undying love? Why do we
write poems to express our thoughts and feelings? Why do so many movies revolve
around issues that we want to talk about? Why do we read fairy tales to
children at bedtime?
We want someone to give words to our thoughts and emotions.
We want someone to tell us that “hey, you are not alone in this world. I’ve
felt that too.” We unite in our experiences. We share these moments. We share a
bit of ourselves in those moments. That’s how we form friendships. That’s how
we find love. That’s how we strengthen ties with our families. Based on the
common denominator of human experiences that we share, we build our bonds.
We’ve formed frameworks of these experiences based on judgments formed by our ancestors. We’ve formed limitations to everyday living
to gain maximum potential from our lives and to survive as per the laws of
Society. If you want to flourish, then you must be a certain way. But my
question is do we have to?
Who made these laws and regulations? Weren’t they normal
people like you and me? How did they reach these conclusions?
We have to form our own judgements. Why to accept the status
quo without examining it in the first place? Is it working for you? Is it
diminishing your potential? Maybe, they were great stalwarts and they set
benchmarks for us to avoid the hassle that they went through. But real
knowledge and wisdom is acquired through personal experiences and not through
texts and speeches. We can take pointers and see where to begin from but we
have to get there on our own.
Else, what’s the fun? Else, what’s left to explore? Make
your mistakes and fall. We’ll be more alert, more prepared for catastrophes
that we haven’t faced yet. We’ll be more acquainted with ourselves. If you
haven’t allowed yourself to live, how do you even know yourself? How do you know
what you like and what you don’t like? If you’ve sat in a corner watching life
go by and never actively been a part of it, life will go on and it will leave
you behind.
Don’t be afraid.
Let’s cross the bridge
On the other side lies a world of uncertainty
On this side lies calculated list of probabilities
I can’t promise Happily Ever After
I can promise you a possibility
A possibility of Love
A possibility of Hope
A possibility of Failure
A possibility of Heartbreak
But you won’t regret that possibility
Of not considering the possibility
On the other side, I’ll wait for you
I don’t know the way ahead…
But we’ll make the road
With every step that we take
